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survey sez! The Question: What is your definition of soulmate? Do you think it differs between men and women?
The Question: What is your definition of “soulmate.” Do you think the definition is different for men and women? The Answer: “Soulmates — the day they exchange vows and the groom kisses the bride. I believe that unless trials come your way, a marriage cannot be tested. For every trial you pass and come out on the other side still married and in love, then you draw closer to the status of soulmates. It may take five years, but usually ten years. Maybe fifteen. But it will happen if you have tough love.” The Answer: “I think it does differ specifically for men and women, but that generally it comes down to the person who meets your emotional needs, physical desires, and sees who you are honestly and completely. They understand what makes you tick, what ticks you off.... they "get" you, without constant explanation. They are a best friend, a confidant, a motivator, a nurturer, a refuge. Not perfect, because nobody is, but perfect for you. And I don’t think a lot of people marry their soulmates. A lot of them settle. I’d also like to know where exactly mine has been hiding!” The Answer: “I strongly do not like soulmate as a adjective because it denotes that there is one perfect person somewhere in the world who makes life perfect. Life is not perfect. It is great when two people find much in common and it makes life easy. But it can also make life boring. Having differences in a relationship can add to the spice as you fit those differences into your life. A person who was once in my life used ‘soulmate’ as a convenient excuse to spend time with someone not her spouse, ultimately choosing that person for a space of time, and then she moved on. I guess the definition of ‘soulmate’ changed!” The Answer: “A soulmate is someone who understands you so totally, loves you with all your quirks and good qualities, appreciates you for who you are, is there for you when life is getting tough, and his/her very presence makes things that much better. I don't know if that differs between men and women. I'll also use this opportunity to give glory to God for bringing my soulmate my way. Thank you, Jesus!” The Answer: “A soulmate is that person that shares part of your soul substance. God spits soul matter into parts of three and four. You have more than one soulmate. So far in life I have found one of my soulmates. It was a fish at a pet store in Philadelphia.” The Answer: “Soulmate: the mate God has set aside especially for you. I feel the definition is the same for a man or woman. I also feel God has a perfect and a permissive will - as for if you end up with that ‘perfect’ person for you; depends on how much you leave this huge decision in God's hands.” The Answer: “A soulmate is the person that God designed for a particular time in your life. I don't believe there is just one. I know a few people who have become widowed and God gave them another soulmate.” The Answer: “A soulmate...singing sad music? A soulmate is someone that makes you complete and a better person. They meet the needs you have and understand your love language and speak it fluently!” The Answer: “It is the one person God has predestined for you. No, it doesn't differ.” The Answer: “A soulmate is that person whom God designed you especially for. There are plenty of people we are compatible with, but God has that perfect will for us, and that is our soulmate. I believe it's the same for men and women, although women are more sensitive about the matter.” The Answer: “My definition of a soulmate is a godly Christian man who is educated and is not afraid to have a wife who is also educated and that has a job of her own.” The Answer: “My definition of a soulmate is someone that I can be happy spending the rest of my life with.” The Answer: “A soulmate is someone you have such a strong connection with that you want to spend your life with them. There may be more than one person that could be this strongly connected. I am not sure if men can have a definition of soulmate or what it would be, but most likely it would differ from a woman's definition.” The Answer: “The perfect person with whom you want to spend the rest of your life.” The Answer: “First of all, I want to say that Hollywood and the media in general have misguided young people to believe that there is a perfect person who you will find and they will make you feel a certain way, and life will be perfect because of a superficial feeling. Without sounding preachy, I do think God has a different perspective. It's not always a feeling, but the person God has for you will be nothing less than your every heart's desire. A soulmate is, to me, the person with whom I share common values on every front - spiritually, mentally, and emotionally. The person who seems to know me and understand me. The person whom I love to be with, and can't spend enough time with. The person I can see myself growing old with.” The Answer: “Soulmate.... Ahhhhhh... those words have a certain beautiful ring in my ears. I am still searching for my soulmate. Okay, back to real life. A soulmate is a person God has chosen for you. Whom you will love and be with for the rest of your life. I don't guess it differs. Everyone is looking for a soulmate, if they don't have one that is.” The Answer: “I think there is too much emphasis on the term ‘soulmate.’ The secular world uses it so frequently and yet there is such a horrendous rate of divorce. To me, ‘soulmate’ sounds too much like a New Age fundamental. And since I don't believe in New Age practices and teachings, I personally refuse to use the term. I do, however, believe that God has the perfect spouse for all of us. For years I tried to go about finding my spouse without God's help, but I always made the worst mistakes. The guys I thought I wanted to date always turned out to be sheep in wolves clothing. I wanted to get married and have a family so much that I didn't always have patience with God. Then one night, at a funeral no less, I met the man God had chosen for me. It took a year and a half for God to bring us together for good, but He did and we are now married. A few years before my husband and I were married, a minister told me that it was his opinion that God doesn't really care who we marry as long as we marry in the church. Well, that is his opinion - not mine. I believe we can marry anyone we choose, thanks to God giving us free will, but that He has someone for each of us if we will just let Him work out His perfect will in His time. Our problem is that we get ahead of His work and we bind His hands. Then we end up in relationships and marriages that aren't what is best for us. We lead unhappy lives and we just cohabitate until death or get a divorce. I've been in church all my life and have seen this happen countless times. How sad and what a shame! Does it differ between men and women? I can't speak for everyone, but as for my husband and me, it is the same for both of us. We each feel that God was bringing us together from the moment we were born. Why? Because He has a work for us that only we together can accomplish for His kingdom. We both bring different things to the table and can help different people. This will be priceless when God opens the door for my husband to pastor. Together, we can be the best God calls us to be. I almost married a man whom I thought was acceptable because I was so lonely. I tried to ignore the prodding of the Holy Ghost, but in the end, thankfully, listened. Now I am happily married to the man God chose long ago, and His blessings are without end. So, should I call my husband my soulmate? No way. I call him ‘the man God created just for me’!” The Answer: “I definitely think that the definition of soulmate differs from men to women. Some think it’s one who just cooks, cleans, leads their family, takes care of the children, brings in the paycheck while they're with the children, or just someone who's there for them. I personally think it’s that and so much more. A soulmate is one whom you share your heart, life, dreams, and every aspect of your life, regardless of its magnitude. It is the person whom God chose for you to share your life with. It’s important for you to let God lead you in finding your soulmate, because if you do it on your own, well, it's no coincidence that we are likened to sheep!”
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